"You know your friends aren't your friends, and one day you are going to have to chose between the ones who can help you grow, and the ones that are pulling you down."
-- BIG MAC
"See boy want you don't understand is, when you plan a wedding it shows you who your true friends are."
-- James Lewis
"Ghost, they way they treat you I wouldn't have any of them as my friends."
-- Jackie Lewis
"Not ever friend is your friend."
-- Pastor Gipson
Me and Geoff became thick as thieves. We were joint at the hip for a long time, post elementary school. I really don't know how we kept in contact, all I know is when high school hit he was right there by my side, like he had always been.
What Makes A Friend
Now most people may say, why do we need to know what makes a friend? My answer to that is, there are some people who think they have friends and they don't. There are some people who may call someone their friend and the reality is that person isn't in their corner. So to me, there are 3 things that make up a friend. The first is time.
It's not so much the time ya'll spend together, but its the time ya'll have known each other. If you think about it, most of your real friends, you probably spend about 10 hours or less a week with. But when you need them they are their in a heartbeat. Time to let you heal when you are going through pain, or they appear at the right time when you need them too. They give you your space and they hold you when you cry, and they break your balls when neccassary.
This is a quality often over looked in a friend. Growth. If you need to know if someone is your friend ask yourself:
"How can this person help me grow as a person!" & "Do I help them grow as much if not more as they help me?"
"DANG NOT THEM AGAIN!"
c) or Lifetime..
-- REASON -- God or the divine power you believe in, saw fit that this person or group of people, are needed around you in order for you to understand or to get through a particular place in your life. Think about it, example. When you start a new job. You have different co-workers. The atmosphere at the new job may be different than the old one. You feel like you are in the minority at the job when you sere in the majority at the old one. But you know for growth, in your career advancement is inevidable. So for this REASON you leave the old job, because the people gave you what you needed there, the experience, the love, the memories to move on and advance your career. Whether you move up in the same company to a different position or if you move to a different city in the same field. Some friends are much like those jobs. They are there for you to get the experience of how to be a friend, how to treat a friend, how you should act around these type of people verses other types of people. You learn how to stay true to yourself, you learn from the mistakes of your friends. If he get caught stealing and crashes the car into a police cruser you know it's not a good idea to go stealing, or for a joy ride with him.
--SEASON-- Some people are seasonal. But the thing is we get so attached to the seasonal people that we want them to stay around for the lifetime. Then we get mad, when they do something stupid to make us say; "you know what I don't even want them as a friend"
As my dad would say: "Good, cause they weren't your friend no ways."
The best way to spot this friend, is need something, I mean anything, some toliet paper, a paper plate, a pen, a ride to the store, a dollar, just need something and watch them act funny. Watch them come up with a million and 2 reason why they can't help you out.
Most young relationships are seasonal. Seasonal friendships do serve a purpose though. They show love. Even if it is for a time being it's love. You may not known you loved to play chess until your met a chess a player. You call them every night, you're over their house, you play on-line, but then when it's time for the coach to go his/her way, you want them to stay around forever.
"Believe it or not part of being a good friend is knowing when to let go" --BIG MAC
This is where you know you have a true friend. The ones that stick around for a lifetime, the sad thing is we don't know those people when we first meet them, but a lifetime friend is one who is not completely focused on your growth as a person, but they are concerned about it. They look after you intrest just like they would look after their own.
Does this person make you happy? Do ya'll have more good time that bad times. Can ya'll make up after a fight. Will ya'll let a girl / man come between ya'll? Friendship is the definition of fun. What good is fun, if you have to do it alone, idk, maybe it's just me, cause I love people and being around people and meeting new people. It's one of the things in life that bring me joy, and meeting people who enjoy meeting new folk as much as I do, can call me their friend. But I'm tell ya'll like my daddy told me:
"There's a difference between a friend, and a true friend"